Are you safe

at home?

We all have a right to feel safe and protected at home.

The Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria (DVRCV) is a Victorian specialist family violence organisation. For over 30 years we have been working towards our vision of creating a world in which women and their children are thriving, respected and free from violence.

COVID-19 has impacted many aspects of our lives and routines in the past year.

But times of stress and hardship are never an excuse for violence or abuse. 

If you’re experiencing abuse, you do not have to face this alone. 

Help and support is available. This page has information to help you think about your safety and find support.

He never actually hit me, but his behaviour left me constantly on edge. He would push me, throw things at me, call me names, humiliate me in front of friends... He constantly demanded that I have sex to prove I loved him.

Jenna

Read Jenna's story

Getting help

Specialist family violence services are open and ready to provide support.

These statewide services support people across Victoria.

About this site

Family violence is when your partner, ex, carer, family member or someone you’re in a family-like relationship with uses threatening, controlling and violent behaviour that makes you scared for your own - or someone else’s - safety and wellbeing.

Family violence doesn’t always involve physical abuse. People use a wide range of abusive behaviours to maintain power and control in relationships. No matter what form it takes, family violence is never acceptable.

It is never okay for someone to:

Is it family violence?

Are you concerned someone you know may be experiencing family violence? Read our information for friends, family neighbours and colleagues.

As well as contacting a specialist family violence service, there are other things you can think about doing to help keep yourself safe.

Other ways to stay safe

Talk to someone you trust

It might help to confide in someone you trust about what you’re going through. This could be a friend, a family member or a professional such as your GP, counsellor or teacher. They may be able to offer emotional and practical support or play a role in your safety plan. Keep them informed about what’s happening at home. 

Don’t punish yourself. I never thought I’d be in an abusive relationship but I was. Then I thought I’d never get out because I was scared and stuck. Help is at hand.

Rebecca

Read Rebecca's story

Whether you are planning to leave or stay, there are lots of important things to consider when thinking about your safety. The best way to make a safety plan is with the help of a specialist family violence service.

Document the abuse

It can be useful to keep a record of someone’s behaviour that makes you feel threatened or afraid. This will help you explain your situation to other people, support services, the police or in court.

There are tools available to help you document the abuse, including the Arc app which you can use to record your story safely on your smartphone.

Making contact safely

If it’s unsafe to call from home, try contacting these services via email, web chat or calling while you’re out making a trip to the supermarket or pharmacy.

If you need an interpreter or translator, call the National Translating and Interpreting Service on 13 14 50 and ask them to contact the support service.

If you – or someone you know – is in immediate danger, call the police on triple zero (000).

What to expect

Help you to explore your options and think about what you want to do next.

Apply for an intervention order

A Family Violence Intervention Order or FVIO is a legal order issued by a court to protect you and your children from someone's abusive or violent behaviour.

You can apply for an FVIO online or call your nearest court to discuss other ways to apply. You can also ask a specialist family violence or legal service for help with your application.

When your application is received, someone from the Magistrates' Court will call you to explain the next steps, including a court hearing date. Most hearings are currently taking place online or via email. Visit the Magistrates' Court website for more info. Before your hearing, it's a good idea to speak with a legal service about your situation and get some information.

If you need protection straight away, call the police on triple zero (000). They can issue a safety notice to keep you safe until the Intervention Order is heard in court. 

Access financial support

If you’re finding it hard to make ends meet, you might be able to access financial support through Centrelink. To learn more and find out whether you meet the crisis payment eligibility criteria, check out the Centrelink website or call 132 850 (8am-5pm, Monday-Friday).

There are also services available for people who are not in Victoria.

Control where you go or who you speak to.

Physically attack or hurt you.

Threaten you or your loved ones, including a pet.

Limit your access to necessities, including face masks or healthcare.

Stalk or monitor you, including online.

Force you to do sexual things you don’t want to do.

Regularly put you down, humiliate you or attack your self-esteem.

Control your finances and financial decisions.

Threaten to take away custody of your children or your visa status.

Stop you from practising religious, spiritual or cultural beliefs and rituals.

Make you feel scared to say ‘no’.

Put you in touch with other services if you’d like to access additional forms of support – such as counselling, financial help or legal assistance.

Help you access crisis accommodation, if needed.

Work with you to create a plan to keep yourself and your children safe, if appropriate.

When you contact a support service, they will:

Respectfully listen to your concerns and assess your level of risk.

Make a safety plan

If you're concerned about someone, read our information for friends, family, neighbours and colleagues.

Consider planning where you will go and how you will get there if you need to leave in a hurry

Keep important items such as spare keys, money, a charged back-up phone, identification and important documents in an easily accessible place, or with a trusted person

Think about how you could alert your children if they need to leave without you, and where they should go

Create signals to alert neighbours, family or friends to intervene or call triple zero (000)

Take steps to ensure no one is using your technology to monitor you

Keep a list of emergency and support contacts handy or stored in a safe, private phone

Teach your children that during a violent incident their responsibility is to stay safe

Find a safe place to stay

If you need to leave home to escape family violence and don't have somewhere safe to stay, you may be able to access temporary accommodation through safe steps in Victoria, or another housing or crisis service in your state. 

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Are you unsafe right now?
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call triple zero (000).
Find more information about family violence support services below.

Seek legal advice

Legal services can help you understand what the law says about violence, your relationship, separation, custody of your children, money and property. They can help you take out an intervention order to protect you from the person using violence, or make safe arrangements for your children. A specialist family violence service can help connect you with an appropriate legal service or you can contact a community legal centre directly.

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